I didn’t understand until recently how much power I hold.
For the longest time, I didn’t realize I could control my own thoughts. I assumed my thoughts were like a stream constantly running through my head at any given moment and that there really wasn’t any way to control them, other than to try and tune them out.
Can you relate to this?
It wasn’t until I embraced the need for change in my life that I began doing research. I found out that we actually can control our thoughts. I learned about the science behind why it feels so hard to change our thought and behavioral patterns. It turns out that as we think a certain thought or act a certain way in response to something, our reaction creates a groove or pathway in our brain. The next time we are confronted by that same thing our brain recognizes that we created a pathway specifically for this situation and it takes us down that pathway again, and the pathway in our brain becomes a little more ingrained. Each time we go down the pathway it gets a little more carved out, making it harder for us to take a different pathway the next time we are in that situation.
Knowing this, it is easy to see how we become “stuck” in our ways, beliefs, and reactions. In a way it is relieving to know it isn’t totally our fault we have certain tendencies, right? Go ahead and revel in that knowledge for a moment, but don’t stay there too long…. We also have science to show that you aren’t off the hook!
The Power of Intention Setting
As I got further into this, I found there is plenty of research to show that we have the power to override the patterns we have put in place throughout our lives. The first step of course is to recognize the thought or behavior patterns you want to work on. I started by focusing on my negativity. I didn’t think I was being negative all these years. I saw it as being practical; logical. Truthful, even. But as I learned more, I realized that the wording I chose always focused on the negative aspects I didn’t want instead of the positive aspects I did want. For example, as I struggled with my health I was always thinking about or talking about how I never felt well and how I sick I was, instead of focusing on how I looked forward to finding the right health plan to help me feel well more often or focusing on how well I felt when I had a good day instead of putting the focus on how bad I felt the day before or after.
Once I started understanding the power of my chosen words, I slowly began making changes. As I recognized a thought that had a negative spin, I thought of a way to change it to a positive spin. This took a lot of patience and a lot of self-reflection. It has gotten much easier now, but I’m not gonna lie—I think it is a life-long practice that we all need to embrace for our own mental health!
This is where intention-setting is very powerful. It is a tool we can create for ourselves any time we identify something that we would like to work on, either within ourselves or the way we interact with our loved ones, or even in our community.
The definition of intention is “a thing intended; an aim or a plan.”
By setting an intention for ourselves we create a focus, a game plan. Pick something you really feel the need for; an area you really feel called to improve upon. If you pick an intention half-heartedly, you won’t follow it. So, an intention may be “stay calm and grounded,” or perhaps “make a difference” would feel more appropriate for you.
When you settle on an intention that feels right, create an affirmation around it that you can write down on a small card and carry with you and recite to yourself throughout the day. When you write your affirmation, pay close attention to the words you choose. Keep them positive, grateful, and written as if your intention is already happening. For example, instead of saying “I will try to stay calm next time I have a stressful day at work,” say “I am so grateful I have the ability to stay calm when work is challenging.” Do you see the difference? The first is focused on the stress, while the second assumes you already have the ability to keep calm.
Coming soon: the Intention Collection
I am so excited to announce my newest labor of love! Because I believe so strongly in the power of our thoughts and words and the magic of setting intentions, I created my upcoming collection to help you choose an intention you feel strongly about and help hold you accountable to yourself by wearing your chosen Intentional Jewelry.
I have created 13 sets of jewelry, including necklaces, earrings and bracelets. Each set has its own intention based on the energy of the stones used in the set. Each set will be available to purchase as a complete set at a discounted price, or in individual pieces from the set. When you make a purchase, your piece will come with an intention card, including an affirmation and an additional morning prayer to carry with you and look at throughout the day. Wearing your jewelry will amplify the intention with the energy of the stones, and will help keep you accountable to yourself by reminding you to recite your affirmation.
I can’t wait for you to see the collection! Join our Circle to have access to our Pre-Launch Party (date to be announced soon)! Many pieces in the collection are one-of-a-kind or very limited in quantity, so make sure you don’t miss out! Click here to join!